A Good Day: Just Exploring and Being A Mom

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Today is a good day. It’s a day I don’t have to be anywhere or do anything. I can just be and do what I want.

So today, I was a mother, teacher and explorer with my kids.

We left early in the morning with clouds looming in the sky and I took them to a place they’d never been too, but is just a five minute drive away. Then we just started walking. We talked, the boys raced, we identified plants and clouds. We talked about hydroelectricity, nature and geology. We just kept walking until the sprinkles grew to a drizzles and then headed back. We made it back home before the rain really began to fall and sipped hot cocoa to warm up.

Now as I write this, rain is pattering the windows and the trees are bending in the wind. We haven’t had rain in a really long time so this is a welcome sight.

And, it’s a relief for me. I love the rain.

This is always a hard time of year for me.

Even though I absolutely love the fall, I think the lack of sunlight affects me more than I’d like to admit. The cold keeps me inside and the early nights are beginning to depress me. Add to that the annoying busyness of this time of year that makes it difficult to enjoy the season. I fall short in so many ways of what I’m “supposed” to be doing, but I’ve just had to not think about it. I’ve had to let go of so much and sometimes it’s hard. I feel so limited, but I just don’t have energy -mentally, for any more.

If I could have more days like today though, just walking in nature with my kids, I think I would be a happy camper all the time. It wouldn’t even have to always be raining. 🙂

I just prefer the outdoors.

When I think of my future dream home, I don’t imagine the inside of the home. Half the time I don’t see a house at all. What I do see are the trees, creeks, hills, mountains, wild flowers, birds in the air, warm sunshine on my face or brilliant fall foliage. Just as important to me as the space my family will dwell in, is the feel of the area around us. That’s probably why when I am looking at houses for sale on zillow, I am drawn to the lots of land more than the homes.

Even though I am a cooler weather person (I do not do well in the heat), I am looking forward to the winter solstice tomorrow. After tomorrow, the days will grow longer again and there will be more light in our part of the world. I’ve always marveled how at a time when we celebrate the birth of our Savior, who IS the light, it is also at a time when our days begin to have more light. There’s a renewing of hope and a promise of relief. It makes me so grateful for the timing of certain things. There really is a plan.

And, I am so grateful for days like today. No pressures. No obligations. Just happy little moments with my kids, building memories and having fun.

So what have I been up to lately?

Well since my last post (which was the last time it rained), my oldest won a golfing championship, my second son was a student of the month and had a birthday, I won NaNoWriMo, we had a craft show and we’ve had trials galore. But, at the moment, life is good and I am grateful for that. I’m hoping to write here more frequently soon.

Now it’s your turn. What would be your “good day?” Who would you spend it with and what would you do? I’d love to know!

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Blessed Busyness: The Blessings of Hard Work

Do you know what Blessed Busyness is?

Blessed Busyness is where life is crazy busy but it’s good. It’s being sustained through all the work you have to do. It’s receiving an abundance of unexpected blessings to help you through the busy chaos of goodness (and sometimes the not so good). Blessed Busyness is also having incredible moments where the beauty of everything makes you pause and truly see what’s around you and the pure amount of love God has for you.

Right now I’m experiencing a lot of blessed busyness.

We’ve got cross country practices and meets.

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Violin lessons, golf lessons (thank you Grandpa!) and golf tournaments.

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Crazy amounts of work for Bryce, soap making galore, NaNoWriMo prep, callings to fill, finance classes (which are a lot of fun). Fitness group stuff (a huge blessing).

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The day I discovered I’d lost almost 35 pounds since January.

People to visit and love.

Laundry to fold, cars to fix, neighbors to try to love, animals to care for, and the list just keeps going.

Such is life for everyone.

But you know what else is Blessed Busyness?

Most of all, Blessed Busyness is knowing that everything you are doing, to what ever extent you’re capable, is exactly what you should be doing. You’re WORKING! Sometimes very hard, but you’re happy. You’re exited about life and what’s ahead.

This past week’s “Foundation Principle” in the finance class my husband and I are taking, is to “take responsibility and persevere.” I really loved one of the quotes that was shared by Elder D. Todd Christofferson. He said:

God has designed this mortal existence to require nearly constant exertion. . . . By work we sustain and enrich life. . . . Work builds and refines character, creates beauty, and is the instrument of our service to one another and to God. A consecrated life is filled with work, sometimes repetitive, . . . sometimes unappreciated but always work that improves, . . . lifts, [and] aspires.

In other words, work is good for the soul.

I believe that if you can have a happy attitude about it, perhaps by continually counting your blessings and looking to God for your support, it’s not going to matter how hard the things are that you must endure.

Even if it’s hard to be happy . . . and let’s face it, that does happen, if you trust in the Lord, He will be your strength.

Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust, and not be afraid: for the Lord Jehovah is my strength and my song; he also is become my salvation. -Isaiah 12:2

In conclusion, work is good. Being busy is good. Seeing your blessings and enjoying life as you are busy and doing good is even better.

 Now it’s your turn. What’s been keeping you busy these days? How have you managed to keep a cheerful attitude through it? What blessing have you seen through hard work?

P.S. Last week on my writing blog, I talked about Brain Fog and trying to prepare for NaNoWriMo. Things are getting better and I finally feel like I’ve got a story to write next month. I’m excited about it and will update you as needed. Another blessing that I’ve noticed in the crazy busy time, is that my mind is clearing and my ability to actually focus on writing is improving. Hurray!

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Being Happy When You Feel Sad or Mad


As we were driving home last Saturday evening from a wonderful Women’s Session of General Conference, my nine year old daughter asked me an important question. She said:

“Mom? How can you be happy when you feel sad or mad?”

When she asked that, I felt a great swelling of love and joy for my daughter. She had actually been paying attention to the speakers. Not only was she paying attention, but she was also pondering what they said. And, after pondering her question, she asked me, trusting me to give her an answer. It’s hard to describe the feeling that gives me. The closest I can come, is that it’s an honor to be her mother and to be the mother of each of my very special kids.

The talk my daughter was referencing with her question was President Uchtdorf’s talk “Three Sisters” in which he tells the story of three sisters, one who was mad, one sad and the other, glad. Mad, was mad about everything and ended up dying mad. Sad, was sad about everything, and like her sister, died sad. Glad lived a happy life even when sad or bad things happened, and when she died, she died glad. President Uchtdorf then goes on to talk about how each of these sisters relate to aspects of our own lives.

With the transcripts of this talk still unavailable, I’ll do my best to convey the things that stood out to me from his talk.

He said (paraphrasing in my own words):

Don’t be driven about by others’ opinions.

Don’t surrender my happiness to others.

Remember who you are. Other people’s words are meaningless when compared to Heavenly Father’s words about you.

When you degrade a group of people, you are more likely to condone words and acts of violence against them. (This is bad.)

What did the Savior teach? Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you. (See Matthew 5:44.)

We are responsible for our own decipleship and it has little to do with how others treat us.

Never forget you are a child of God.

You can not allow circumstances to make you mad or sad.

Fill your hearts with gratitude for the goodness of God.

Make the choice to press on to the tree of life.

Life up your voice.

Joyfully thrive as a daughter of God.

You can watch the actual talk here.


What I told my daughter

The very first thing I told my daughter when she asked me how we can be happy when we feel sad or mad, was that it was okay to feel sad about things and that it was okay to be mad. What matters is faith and gratitude. Through faith in our Savior, we can feel peace and know that everything will be alright even when sad or bad things happen.  I also told her that being grateful for our blessings helps us through the difficult times. I explained to her that we can experience joy at the very same time that we feel sad. We also talked about how the very best way to always have that peace with us, was to always choose the right, to keep the commandments, and to repent when we need to. Heavenly Father loves us and always wants us to tern to him.

I don’t know if the answer I gave her was exactly perfect, but I think it was sufficient for what she needed at the time. My poor little girl is going through a lot of hard things right now, some of which she legitimately has cause for feeling mad and sad. I think that’s why President Uchtdorf’s talk was so important for her to hear. Some aspects of the talk seemed especially applicable to her. If nothing else, it prompted a question for her, one that she was then able to share with me.

If that’s not reason enough to watch General Conference with your children, I don’t know what is.

Now it’s your turn. How do you find was to be happy when  your feel sad or mad? Or, what are you hoping to hear is this weekend’s General Conference.

Don’t know what General Conference is? It’s when the Prophet and Apostles of Jesus Christ speak to all the earth. Do you want to hear what they and other church leaders have to say? You can watch it this weekend! Just click on this link to be directed there.


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